Keys to Self Empowerment: Clarity

In looking for ways to describe human nature, and of understanding ourselves better, we use terms like Self Esteem, Self Worth and Self Confidence. The problem with these terms is that if we look at what they actually mean we find that they are often left undefined (even in heavy tomes on psychology) or defined … Read more

Loneliness and Self-rejection

When we reject part of ourselves we feel rejected. It can be very tempting to push away the parts of ourselves which we do not approve of. Yet, I notice that when I judge part of myself and push that part away as being “not okay” somehow, then that part feels pain. Guess who ultimately … Read more

Loneliness and Forgiveness

We feel most lonely when we are not a friend to ourselves. We feel most abandoned when we abandon ourselves. We feel most rejected when we reject ourselves. Lack of forgiveness can isolate us from other people and create loneliness in our lives. If we have a store of unforgiven material it can make it … Read more

The New Way of Leadership

During the spring of 2015 I was took the lead in organising the first TEDxFindhorn. There were people involved with far more experience than me in organising events. Yet despite me encouraging them, no suggestions were coming from them about how we could best run the event. It was only when I made specific suggestions, … Read more

Two Kinds of Healing

There are two kinds of healing. In one kind of healing a blessing comes to us. We become uplifted, soothed, and difficulties and blocks fall away. With the other kind of healing, the blessing is not so obvious. We feel like we are brought low, life gets rough and difficulties and blocks are everywhere. In … Read more

Happy Habits

Happy habits is based on the simple idea of using our innate ability to bless to help us break out of habits of unhappy thinking and feeling. We simply replaces habits, of negativity, regret, worry and anger with a habit of blessing. There are three main happy habits: 1. Bless People. every time you think … Read more

The Balance Dance

Depending on our character, we may become more quiet around loud people; or we may become louder. We may become pushy around people who are offering us resistance and we may become resistant around pushy people. We may become needy around independent people and we become more independent around needy people. Yet all the time … Read more

Making Connection: Eye Contact

A lot of the skills we need in connecting with others can be developed as we go about the ordinary business of our daily lives. It is well known, for example, that eye contact is one the main ways that connection and attraction is felt between people. Good eye contact generates a kind of electricity … Read more