Reconciliation and Apologies

Sometimes we may have a hard time showing remorse. It can be hard to find it within ourselves to take the initiative and offer a straight upfront apology. This can also be true of the person who we feel has harmed us. It might be very difficult for them to admit their error, especially if … Read more

Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can: Carolyn Myss

Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can takes us on a journey towards healing. In this book Carolyn Myss looks at the underlying causes of illness, the blocks which stand in the way of healing and how to overcome those blocks to allow the healing forces within us to be awakened. The two main … Read more

The Pain of Unforgiveness

If we have not forgiven, sometimes other things masquerading as wisdom will take its place. If we get bitter and cynical and accept attitudes like, “People can’t be trusted.”, “Men/women are just impossible”, or whatever, then this is nothing to do with wisdom. It can be tempting to assume that we have learned a lesson … Read more

Overcoming Shyness

It can seem like such a minor thing to label something as ‘shyness’. It makes it sound like it is no big deal. However, if we look at the missed opportunities and the loneliness and isolation that can come from shyness we can see that it is no minor thing. Shyness is a big and … Read more

A Course in Miracles

The Course in Miracles is a very profound set of teaching based on the theme of Forgiveness. Its main goals are to set us free from fear; free from fear of the future, free from fear of other people and above all free from fear of God. It is mainly a set of 365 lessons … Read more

Man with a Hand Cart

In ancient times a man was pushing a hand cart along a track when it got stuck in deep mud. He pushed and pushed for a long time, but he could not get his hand cart out of the mud. He was getting very angry and frustrated at how impossible it was to push the … Read more

Keys to Self Empowerment: Clarity

In looking for ways to describe human nature, and of understanding ourselves better, we use terms like Self Esteem, Self Worth and Self Confidence. The problem with these terms is that if we look at what they actually mean we find that they are often left undefined (even in heavy tomes on psychology) or defined … Read more

Loneliness and Self-rejection

When we reject part of ourselves we feel rejected. It can be very tempting to push away the parts of ourselves which we do not approve of. Yet, I notice that when I judge part of myself and push that part away as being “not okay” somehow, then that part feels pain. Guess who ultimately … Read more

Loneliness and Forgiveness

We feel most lonely when we are not a friend to ourselves. We feel most abandoned when we abandon ourselves. We feel most rejected when we reject ourselves. Lack of forgiveness can isolate us from other people and create loneliness in our lives. If we have a store of unforgiven material it can make it … Read more

The New Way of Leadership

During the spring of 2015 I was took the lead in organising the first TEDxFindhorn. There were people involved with far more experience than me in organising events. Yet despite me encouraging them, no suggestions were coming from them about how we could best run the event. It was only when I made specific suggestions, … Read more